Umm, hey guys, just an FYI here... Guilt isn't cool and neither is begging for someone's friendship. It's awkward at best and annoying at worst. Respect people's privacy. This isn't a popularity contest, it's about someone's personal thoughts and feelings. Respect Aimee's decision if she doesn't want to share those with you. It's only common sense and common courtesy. Ne?
I appreciate it, muchly. :) though usually when I dont add someone it is due to me simply not having time. I do it in batches... I tend to add people that I view as aquaintances, and then I have a separate "uber-private" list for those that I "know" and consider to be close friends.
Though, I've found that people when I add them to my regular low-privacy friends list, they somehow think that we are then best friends, which sometimes causes uncomfortable misunderstandings. :\
(I guess I should weed it more to people who I know better, however, since I've made my journal friends only,... I like to add people I think MAY become a better friend, thus I get to know more people. if I limited it only to close friends, then I wouldnt make any more friends.)
Eheh, couldn't help myself. I hate it when people don't bother to look at a situation from the other person's perspective, makes me peevish. *shows teeth* I thought it might have been time issue as well for you, but still... Begging like that from someone you barely know is a tad tactless; although, heh, I'm usually a little more forgiving in my reproofing... o.o *tries, in vain, to look innocent*
But damn girl, I don't know how the hell you keep up with that many people on your friends list! I couldn't read all that, even to just skim it. o_o
I agree, it's tactless, but relatively harmless. I think most people don't think about stuff others are going through, they think about how THEY would feel in the same situation. not how the other person is feeling... you know... assuming that someone else reacts in the same way, etc.
as to the friends list, I only read select ones, I have it set up in little groups. :) otherwise I couldnt handle it!
I take it someone was begging to be added to the friends list? Owch.
I make it a policy of not asking, because if you have to ask then the person probably doesn't consider you a friend, and that makes a situation awkward.
I was really surprised when a few days ago I checked my user info and saw I'd been added to Aimee's Friends list, because I'd left maybe one or two comments to her past posts and hadn't asked to be on her list. Not because I didn't want to be on her list, it's just I saw the HUGE crowd of people who were on the Friends Of list. I suck at the groupie thing, too much "diva" in my soul *^_^*, so I avoid situations like that.
When I saw I'd been added, I did a "yay! I've been added" post, and rushed to put Aimee on my own Friends list. So I did feel kind of stupid when the next day I saw I'd been dropped. But, c'est la vie, that's life.
Since we are the barest of aquaintances, I take it all with a bit of bemusement, but no offense. I have only talked with Aimee a few times since she first contacted me about my Thundercats cels a few years ago, so I am not shocked if I'm not on her friends list.
We've only met once in person, and that really in passing, at a convention. I gave her a banana, and she did a sweet Danger Kitty sketch for me that was a present for my friend Sonia.
That's really about the limit of my actual "real" contact with her, but then, I feed everybody. If everyone I'd given food to added me to their Friends list, I wouldn't be able to load the page! *^_^*
I look at things like being added to someone's Friends page as pure serendipity. If it falls into your lap, kewl. If it doesn't, don't try to force it, becaue it sort of ruins the value of the act.
Whoa, Chateau Latour 1967...even in France you have to pay a nasty amount of $$ to put your hands on a bottle ! Just curious, but when/where did you buy this one ?! Yum, you're lucky ^_^
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Date: 2002-10-02 10:53 pm (UTC)I hope it was a good year for wine, then.
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Date: 2002-10-03 06:05 am (UTC)1967... Good year for naked lawyer men... bad year for corks.
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Date: 2002-10-04 07:29 pm (UTC)Though, I've found that people when I add them to my regular low-privacy friends list, they somehow think that we are then best friends, which sometimes causes uncomfortable misunderstandings. :\
(I guess I should weed it more to people who I know better, however, since I've made my journal friends only,... I like to add people I think MAY become a better friend, thus I get to know more people. if I limited it only to close friends, then I wouldnt make any more friends.)
:( its a catch 22.
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Date: 2002-10-05 06:36 am (UTC)*cough*
:)
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Date: 2002-10-07 05:19 pm (UTC)But damn girl, I don't know how the hell you keep up with that many people on your friends list! I couldn't read all that, even to just skim it. o_o
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Date: 2002-10-07 07:46 pm (UTC)as to the friends list, I only read select ones, I have it set up in little groups. :) otherwise I couldnt handle it!
Easy come, easy go...
Date: 2002-10-07 07:19 pm (UTC)I make it a policy of not asking, because if you have to ask then the person probably doesn't consider you a friend, and that makes a situation awkward.
I was really surprised when a few days ago I checked my user info and saw I'd been added to Aimee's Friends list, because I'd left maybe one or two comments to her past posts and hadn't asked to be on her list. Not because I didn't want to be on her list, it's just I saw the HUGE crowd of people who were on the Friends Of list. I suck at the groupie thing, too much "diva" in my soul *^_^*, so I avoid situations like that.
When I saw I'd been added, I did a "yay! I've been added" post, and rushed to put Aimee on my own Friends list. So I did feel kind of stupid when the next day I saw I'd been dropped. But, c'est la vie, that's life.
Since we are the barest of aquaintances, I take it all with a bit of bemusement, but no offense.
I have only talked with Aimee a few times since she first contacted me about my Thundercats cels a few years ago, so I am not shocked if I'm not on her friends list.
We've only met once in person, and that really in passing, at a convention. I gave her a banana, and she did a sweet Danger Kitty sketch for me that was a present for my friend Sonia.
That's really about the limit of my actual "real" contact with her, but then, I feed everybody. If everyone I'd given food to added me to their Friends list, I wouldn't be able to load the page! *^_^*
I look at things like being added to someone's Friends page as pure serendipity. If it falls into your lap, kewl. If it doesn't, don't try to force it, becaue it sort of ruins the value of the act.
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Date: 2002-10-04 05:25 am (UTC)Moet Chandon means "Too Expensive" I think.
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Date: 2002-10-08 02:32 am (UTC)Grand wine of the Latour house, 1967 :)
francais c'est la language de l'amour.
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Date: 2002-10-08 04:13 pm (UTC)Yum, you're lucky ^_^
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