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[aimeekitty]

"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me lay an invincible summer."
- Albert Camus.

I love that quote. You are not the victim of your circumstances...

I really feel like we have a choice over our attitude and worldview. You could be having a seriously crappy day, but if you force yourself to think about it in a more positive way, or to go enjoy staring at the clouds outside or something, you really can have a better day. In fact, you can make yourself have a great day.

I've come across a lot of people who have pretty good lives... but they are so negative all the time. So self-defeating. And it's not just that they are unhappy... they also miss out on potential greatness. It makes me feel really bad for them... but I almost feel ANGRY. Because they are wasting their life! I feel like in most cases, you have a choice whether to allow yourself to wallow in that grossness.

Someone mentioned kind-of sarcastically about my journal being "all hearts all the time" as if I'm being insincere or something? It kinda blows my mind that someone else's positivity would bother someone. But more to the point...
I know that I'm lucky, and I'm grateful, so I'm happy because I'm grateful.
But I also I work really hard to make my life. I get sad just like anyone else and have a crap day... I've had bad things happen to me.
but I really don't want to dwell on that, I go to my very close friends privately when I need to deal with that. I want to focus on the positive as much as possible.

I feel like I say it in small ways a lot, but I want to say it loud today! Life is so very very short. Think of the difference between you now and 5 years ago. Those years will never come back. What are you doing with your next years...?
Oh, please don't waste them doing something mindless, or even worse... waste them by coloring your perspective with negativity.
Today is precious, you have a choice.

To live is the rarest thing. Most people exist, that is all.
~ Oscar Wilde

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."
~ Ferris Bueller

Comments

[ladyoflisquill.livejournal.com]

Beautful and well said. I had to share one of my favourite poems by William Henry Davies

What is this life if full of care
We have no time to stand and stare?

No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep, or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass.

No time to see, in broad daylight,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at Beauty's glance,
And watch her feet, how they can dance.

No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.

A poor life this, if full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.

[dusk-in-dendera.livejournal.com]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being "all hearts all the time". I try to be that way too. Life will often hand you lemons and it's entirely up to you what you do with them. Some of the best advice I've ever received came from a high school pastor who said, "If you think your life is bad and you start feeling sorry for yourself, go out and serve others. It'll put things in perspective really quickly."

Life can be sad and bad things do happen to good people, but dwelling on those losses and sorrows can make you ungrateful, mean-spirited, and no fun to be around. We have such a short time on this earth; why not make the most of it? Find your own happiness, bless and honor others, and be thankful for the bright joys you receive.

You know, you can always tell a Doctor Who fan by their world view ;) I admire and share yours.

[gab.livejournal.com]

Thanks for sharing that quote and your thoughts on this. Really, I think this is why you're so successful. You don't wait for things to just be *handed* to you, you work hard for them and then share the fruits of your labor. It's inspiring, and easy to see why people would be jealous. It takes guts to be happy. Good job. :)

[daphne-lage.livejournal.com]

You also have to remember too that people who take the time to criticize you for being "all hearts all the time" are doing it because it's easier than looking at themselves and actually doing something about why they're miserable all the time (and not achieving their own goals).

Misery may love company but it doesn't mean we have to open the door.

[dave-iii.livejournal.com]

Thank You! Happy People seem so very very rare these days, as if being positive was a bad thing. I mean look at TV: the happy, cheerful, encouraging/nurturing/inspiring person is almost always The Stupid One. It's so very nice to see someone taking up the challenge of being Happy. ^_^

It's like the opposite of Emo-- being cheerful, wearing brightly colored clothes, and listening to happy music. I wonder what would be called... Ome?

[persoconchii.livejournal.com]

z0mg, how dare you be cheerful on the emo-emo-internet! *iz shocked* < /sarcasm>

I call for even more hearts happie posts! With bonus cute clothes ^__^

[neku-niku.livejournal.com]

i hope my recent rash of self hating/depressed posts was not a part of what caused you to be frustrated *frets*

I know that while I'm down, eventually it will turn around. things change, situations migrate, life goes on.

I'm just on a down note because I don't think i'm putting in the work for my life to be where I want it to be.. and I don't really know how to kickstart me again.

[kemica.livejournal.com]

Never be apologetic about your journal being "all hearts all the time", that's part of why it's so uplifting and fun to read. I admire your world view, and some of the things you've said like this has helped me with my own struggles.

I am sorry that I am one of the people who sometimes posts about the bad in my journal. I am still learning how to deal with it all.

But yeah, your journal is wonderful, I hope it never changes.

[ashbet]

*smiles* I agree completely -- I have things that I struggle with in life, but I do my best to always, always count my blessings. And one of the most wonderful things I have in my life is the fact that I'm lucky enough to have such awesome friends.

*squish*

-- A :D

[aimeekitty.livejournal.com]

no, I'm not talking about you. Please don't worry. :) Hang in there. :) everyone gets down sometimes and has a hard time. that's really not what I'm talking about.

[aimeekitty.livejournal.com]

I'm not trying to make you or anyone feel bad with this post, honestly, I'm not thinking of anyone in particular. I just want to try to encourage people to make the most out of their life, right? :) good luck, and thankyou.

[thehornedgod.livejournal.com]

Cynicism is the easiest, cheapest and commonest thing in the world. Taking the piss out of people who choose positivity for themselves and try to share it with others isn't big or clever, and it shouldn't be cool. We need more people who are all hearts all the time, and more people resisting the temptation to rain on one another's parades wouldn't hurt a bit either. Don't let anyone's snideyness bring you down.

[neku-niku.livejournal.com]

cool beans.
though in all honestly, even if it's not at me, I do feel like I should *wake the fuck up* out of my gloom and do something about it.

I hate my jobs but I keep looking for the same ones.. Its a nasty cycle.. I don't know how to escape reality tv.. so i keep looking for work it in, each job killing me a lil'more...

[haikujaguar.livejournal.com]

Sounds right to me.

[digitalis.livejournal.com]

This is an awesome post, and needs to be said more often. We get one shot at this life, we should try to get as much in as possible.

One of my favorite quotes is:
Live like you were going to die tomorrow. Learn like you were going to live forever. -- Ghandi

[gally99.livejournal.com]

Thank you for that quote.
..and for being you in turning what could've been a frustrating downer into a constructive way to spread being more positive.

[sulcatas.livejournal.com]

Thank you for your blog. It always makes me smile and brightens my day. Just like your book did!

[ruggels.livejournal.com]

I simply don't post the negative, but I have reams of material in that department, If something good happens or something interesting I'll find, I'll share it, but otherwise...Why add to the general gloom loud?

Scott

[aimeekitty.livejournal.com]

it's hard to k now where else to apply yourself though, but there must be something else you can apply your skillset to.

[sassymolassey.livejournal.com]

Thank you for saying that!

[rosengeist.livejournal.com]

Hello there, I watch you on deviantart, and I check out your journal every now and again. I saw this post and I wanted to make a comment about it.

I love that your posts are so positive. I know that people blog about both good and bad things, but when I read the posts of people who try to emphasize the positive elements of their life I feel inspired. When I see the awesome work you do, like your sweet/funny "Japan Ai" or your amazing art and costume work I think "man she's always doing something cool! I should get off my bum and work harder too so that I can do my own cool things!"

Your positivity is contagious, and inspiring. Especially with all the sad news in the world right now I think it is very important to remember the good things that we already have and that we can work towards. I love that you remind people of that in your own way :D

[team-tim.livejournal.com]

I much prefer reading upbeat stuff than people who post negative stuff all the time.

Haters always be hatin'.

[merwing.livejournal.com]

I agree 100%! keep posting all hearts all the time! why spread gloom when you can spread happiness? :D

Camus is an Awesome Author!

[jadewik.livejournal.com]

Different people deal with things in different ways. Would that I could be "all hearts all the time"-- it's not me, though. I mock my misery with a sense of healthy sarcasm and witty rhetoric or a good LJ vent-- once it's written down, I feel a bit better and can forget about whatever was bothering me. (Now, my Mother-in-Law is all-hearts... and I find that a VERY magnetic trait-- It's probably also the same reason I enjoy your posts.)

"Woe is me" never got me anywhere positive. It just made things worse. The best way to get out of a personal pit of despair, I've found, is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and lean on friends and family who can uplift you while you keep pressing forward (or optionally, to lose your own troubles in that feel-good type of service).

I happen to think those moments of complete and utter despair are character defining. You really never know what sort of person you are until you've been stripped down to nothing. When you finally recover, it also provides perspective, which I consider a priceless commodity-- especially when endeavoring to help a friend in a personal crisis.

Not everyone can face the refining fire without getting a little burned; but scars can also be a good reminder of personal strength too. So even if some of us seem a little jaded at times those scars will fade with the healing touch of time and a few smiley hearts and rainbows from uplifting personalities.

Re: Camus is an Awesome Author!

[aimeekitty.livejournal.com]

what I am talking about is allowing oneself to be self-defeating by being overall negative, most of the time. I'm not talking about horrific events, though I do think that there are positive ways to deal with those. I've had my share of horrific things and they made me sad and they hurt me deep just like anyone else.
I'm not "all hearts all the time" that's just some people's impression of my journal.

I'll not allow myself to be defeated though, and I'll not let my overall outlook be cynical or negative.

[supinternets.livejournal.com]

Thanks for this entry, I could not agree more. Life is what you make it.