Dear Family, From Big Lo
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aimeekittyThis is a letter from my late grandfather to his daughters (my mother) and their husbands. We saved it. I miss both my grandfather and grandmother, they were wonderful... but really this is something we could all use to remember, I think.
Lowman Tyler (Big Lo) Feb 15 1982
Dear Family,
Here's my suggestions for this month. Hope you don't mind all this un-solicited advice.
Practice the simple but important manners in your family situations:
Say, "Please, Thankyou, May I, Yes Mam, No Sir, etc."
Do not take family members for granted. Be conscious of small and important needs of each member of the family.
All the men in our family are in people-contact careers and sometimes we become fed up with people... we just want to go home and be left alone. Typical: Lowman comes home, walks in the house and says to Vi (aside: Vi was his wife, my grandmother) "Boy, what a day", picks up the paper, turns on some music and lays on the sofa to read. In a few minutes, that sweet Vi calls, "Lowman, your supper is on the table." A grunt from lowman who comes to the table, sits down and starts to eat while Vi fixes her plate. By now it is 6:30 and news time. They both eat in silence as Lowman listens to the news.
How much better it would have been if Lowman had taken a few moments while riding home to make an effort to get himself in a good humor, walk in the house with a smile, "Hi, my sweet woman. How did you hit that ball today?" (aside: Mommy Vi was an avid golfer.) and sit down and listen a few minutes to a hole by hole description. and then ask "How did you play the 16th?" and listen somemore. Stay in the kitchen with Vi and help while she fixes supper, pour your own drink. Sit down together to eat and touch Vi's hand and say from the heart, "You are the most important thing in the world to me" Then bow and thank the Lord for the happiness in our family and for this food.
Treat family members with the same courtesies as the customers at a luncheon. After all, our family is truly the most important thing in our lives. Good family relationships do not come easy or automatic.
Parents should use good manners towards children and children will learn to do the same. Give special attention to the needs of children. Take time to listen. Let the child do most of the talking sometimes. Look for opportunities to spend private time with your child, just two people together as they relate to each other with love and with trust and some humor thrown in. Know what is in your child's heart. Help them understand themselves. When they reach those critical decisions in life, the will come to mama or daddy for help.
and remember that mama and daddy have special needs. Plan special events just for the two of you. Perhaps a romantic evening out where two people can bring out that youth that lies immortal in every human heart.
Then plan some time for Vi and Lowman because whe enjoy you and need you.
We thank the Lord for every memory of you,
Daddy
Lowman Tyler (Big Lo) Feb 15 1982
Dear Family,
Here's my suggestions for this month. Hope you don't mind all this un-solicited advice.
Practice the simple but important manners in your family situations:
Say, "Please, Thankyou, May I, Yes Mam, No Sir, etc."
Do not take family members for granted. Be conscious of small and important needs of each member of the family.
All the men in our family are in people-contact careers and sometimes we become fed up with people... we just want to go home and be left alone. Typical: Lowman comes home, walks in the house and says to Vi (aside: Vi was his wife, my grandmother) "Boy, what a day", picks up the paper, turns on some music and lays on the sofa to read. In a few minutes, that sweet Vi calls, "Lowman, your supper is on the table." A grunt from lowman who comes to the table, sits down and starts to eat while Vi fixes her plate. By now it is 6:30 and news time. They both eat in silence as Lowman listens to the news.
How much better it would have been if Lowman had taken a few moments while riding home to make an effort to get himself in a good humor, walk in the house with a smile, "Hi, my sweet woman. How did you hit that ball today?" (aside: Mommy Vi was an avid golfer.) and sit down and listen a few minutes to a hole by hole description. and then ask "How did you play the 16th?" and listen somemore. Stay in the kitchen with Vi and help while she fixes supper, pour your own drink. Sit down together to eat and touch Vi's hand and say from the heart, "You are the most important thing in the world to me" Then bow and thank the Lord for the happiness in our family and for this food.
Treat family members with the same courtesies as the customers at a luncheon. After all, our family is truly the most important thing in our lives. Good family relationships do not come easy or automatic.
Parents should use good manners towards children and children will learn to do the same. Give special attention to the needs of children. Take time to listen. Let the child do most of the talking sometimes. Look for opportunities to spend private time with your child, just two people together as they relate to each other with love and with trust and some humor thrown in. Know what is in your child's heart. Help them understand themselves. When they reach those critical decisions in life, the will come to mama or daddy for help.
and remember that mama and daddy have special needs. Plan special events just for the two of you. Perhaps a romantic evening out where two people can bring out that youth that lies immortal in every human heart.
Then plan some time for Vi and Lowman because whe enjoy you and need you.
We thank the Lord for every memory of you,
Daddy
